Time to Grow Up

My beautiful daughter is almost 11 months old.

When I hold her in my arms and look at her while she falls asleep, I wish she could stay this way forever.  I realise though, that with every new morning she’s turning from my ‘little baby girl” into the woman that will one day aspire to great endeavours.

I know, I know! “She’s only 11 months old…” I understand and embrace the way life goes, concerning the inevitable…which is growing up!

Yet, time waits for no one and seemingly affects everyone.

I’ve heard people say that you become like the five people you spend the most time with. Interesting thought, isn’t it? We imitate those people closest to us and then model what we’ve learned in a way that is unique to who we are individually.

Even though this idea sounds great it confronts me head on. When I look at the flip side I realise something:

I need to live a life worthy of imitating, a life worth modelling.

We either labour to change the world or let the world change us because of our idleness.

Whichever way, the people closest to us, those that we spend the most time with, will emulate whatever we model. (To a certain degree anyway)

Imagine a life dedicated to bring about a lasting  impact on the world in making it a better place. Imagine a life that reaches above and beyond this world, to the one to come and  shows the way there….

Those would be lives worthy of imitating and modelling. These would be examples I would want my daughter to impersonate and reproduce into the lives of others.

It’s probably time to realise that we need to grow up if we want those who are dear to us to be grown-ups as well. (People who take responsibility and ownership to become who they have been purpose to be.)

Just a thought….





Getting to know the Gilberts

Kiribati flag meaning:

The image of the bird on the Kiribati flag represents authority, freedom and command of the sea. The sun rising over the red sky represents the equator and the blue and white wavy lines symbolize the Pacific Ocean. The 17 rays of the sun also represent the 16 islands and Banaba (former Ocean Island). The Kiribati flag’s image represents Kiribati’s geographical location as the islands spread out over the equator for over 4000 kilometers and cover over two million square kilometers of the Pacific Ocean.

Kiribati was formerly named the Gilbert Islands.



Tarawa Atoll and others of the Gilbert group were occupied by Japan during World War II. Tarawa was the site of one of the bloodiest battles in US Marine Corps history. Marines landed in November 1943; the Battle of Tarawa was fought at Kiribati’s former capital Betio on Tarawa Atoll.

Some of the islands of Kiribati, especially in the remote Line Islands, were formerly used by the United States and United Kingdom for nuclear weapons testing including hydrogen bombs in the late 1950s and early 1960s.


Have you ever met people, spent some time with them and then found out something truly amazing concerning them?

Most people are just like these islands, way off in the middle of the Pacific Ocean minding their own business. Yet, when you get to know them they are far more interesting than you initially thought.

Who would have known that one of the worst battles in US Marine Corps history is part of their story.

What I mean to say is that you shouldn’t judge a book by its cover, or even the absence of one…

Do you make the time to really listen and be attentive to the people you meet?

Being interested in someone will always bring that someone closer.

Whilst in conversation at times, we tend to run on the frequency of our own agendas, even if only in the back of our minds. (Like you might be doing right now, whilst reading this post). It causes us to hear a bunch of words without effectively listening to the person’s story before us.

Good listeners, real listeners make the best friends, even if you’re not really a talkative person. It’s the understanding and camaraderie that forms through the sharing and knowing  of each other’s stories, that testifies of a good listener.

Did you know that Kiribati was formerly known as the Gilbert islands, which were occupied by Japan, witness to the Battle of Tarawa and the test tube for the development of nuclear weapons?

It pays to listen and be attentive. Life is more interesting that way. Especially with the people you meet and befriend.


Mountainous Terrain

It’s the tall trees that catches the most wind, but the highest peaks bask in the most sun.

The willingness to endure a lot of wind has a direct impact on whether you’ll bask in the most sun.

I think that many people set out to become a tall tree of sorts. Then somewhere along the way we start catching the wind and the taller we set out to be, the more wind we seem to catch…

Sometimes we become too eager with becoming significant that growing tall gets prioritized over growing deep.

What I mean is, that the ones with the most established roots are the ones that outlast the test of time.

The more influential we want to be, the stronger our character needs to be. That is why I believe the ‘wind’ is so important, it can be seen as the obstacles or the challenges that tests our character. After every new test we should have a clearer perspective on the strength of our inner man, our character.

Those who want to grow in character embraces the timely and untimely obstacles and challenges that life produces.

Even when going deep opposed to growing tall feel like time wasted. It’s about what happens in the unseen that give longevity to what is seen in the end.


I believe that the same can be said about those mountain tops that bask in the sun. From the earliest hours of morning, when the first rays of sunshine creep over the horizon, you’ll see them fall on the peaks of the mountains and hills that surround you. Then when the day is almost over and dusk sets in on the valley, you’ll see those same peaks still basking in the glorious sun.

Yet, if reaching the top of the mountains we set out to climb is the goal to our becoming significant. It would be impossible to accomplish if you’re  unwilling to go through the valley at the foot of the mountain.

Usually there is no view whilst in the valley. Some have predators, some have mosquitoes. Some are just out right  hot and humid! The valleys can become so uncomfortable, that we choose to rather stay out of them. We’d rather be safe and snug in comfort of our own living rooms.

Still, no mountain is conquered, no peak is reached from the comfort of our homes.

Character is formed in those valleys. It is the valleys that strengthen and prepare us for the laborious journey up the steep slopes and dangerous gorges of the mountain.

When trekking though the valley, it may seem mundane, inappropriate and maybe even inopportune. But isn’t it strange that when we reach the mountain top, the pinnacle of significance, the view usually blows our minds….

….even if the view consist of the valleys that now lies far beneath.

Just a thought…


You either stand for something or you’ll fall for anything – unknown

How do we stay upright when things go pear-shaped?

I believe it could be determined by either the evidence pertaining to a set of values, or the lack thereof. I think living upright is impossible if you do not have a set of values to live by.

Think of it as a round of golf. It is almost certainly impossible to play through 18 holes without clubs. (To say the least, extremely difficult.)

So, now you have acquired a set of clubs to take you through life. Yet, somewhere along the line you become frustrated because you thought the clubs will do the trick. Life just doesn’t want to stay in the fairways and seems to always end up in the rough

What am I getting at? 

I am saying this. Even though a set of values are integrally part of an upright lifestyle, those values need to be put into practice. Your clubs will only perform as well as you hit them.

Life, #uprightliving, is about obtaining a set of values that you can apply and live by, come what may. We shouldn’t just be able to name them, but rather know them. You really only know the inner workings of something when you’ve used it, or put it into practice.

Values determine priorities and priorities anchor you down in the face of uncertainty and formidable times.

Okay. So know we’ve obtained values and we’ve actually started to put them in practice. Be careful what you value.

Be careful to value ‘things’ above relationships. It is the things in many cases that cause the devaluation of our friendships and the exponential growth of animosity.



noun, plural an·i·mos·i·ties.

a feeling of strong dislike, ill will

or enmity that tends to display itself in action

Be sure that the values you live by gives you maximum return over the longest period. Happiness is found in the temporal stuff. While joy is found in the stuff that outlasts the temporal and remain the longest.
Our values carry great significance when it causes #uprightliving in our own lives and those it touches.
Just a thought…

Mutiny on the HMS Bounty

Pitcairn Island Flag Meaning:

The Union Jack represents the country’s link to Great Britain. The shield of the island’s coat of arms shows the anchor and bible from HMS Bounty. The anchor represents the nation’s maritime history and the bible represents its Christian heritage and the religious community that evolved from it. The divided shield represents the island (green) rising out of the Pacific Ocean (blue). The wheelbarrow and plant on the shield represent the country’s agriculture and land.

Interesting Pitcairn Island Flag Facts:

There aren’t too many Pitcairn Island flags in the world, as the population of the country is only about 50 people. It’s the least populated country in the world. In 1937 Pitcairn Island had its highest population with 233 people. Pitcairn Island is famous because of the book and films about the Mutiny on the Bounty. The mutineers settled in Pitcairn Island. The wreckage of the ship Bounty can still be seen underwater in Bounty Bay.

The Pitcairn Islands are a group of five islands but only one is inhabited

– http://www.worldflags101.com/



 noun, plural mu·ti·nies.

1. revolt or rebellion against constituted authority, especially by
 sailors against their officers.
2. rebellion against any authority.
verb (used without object), mu·ti·nied, mu·ti·ny·ing.
3. to commit the offence of mutiny; revolt against authority.

Sometimes I wonder whether the term authority should be listed on the endangered species list.

The story concerning the mutineers that settled in Pitcairn Island, still gets repeated in life today. The characters and the setting might change, but the principle, mutiny, still lives on.

Everywhere you look you’ll find some form of revolt or rebellion against authority. What is strange though, is that few people realise the effect of disobedience or the undermining of authority. In most cases the outcome is destructive, ineffective and unproductive.
Authority should  encourage stability. Leadership should serve, enable and empower.
Who would want to oppose that?
I think one of the reasons that people become mutineers is caused due to bad leadership. (I don’t agree that it should give grounds to any form of rebellion…)
If every person in leadership leads for the well-being and legacy of the ones that follow, maybe they will keep on following.
Let me rephrase  a little. Our privilege and ability to lead should ultimately draw others into a place of strength, self-confidence and self-respect . I purposefully include everyone as befitting a leader, because leadership starts with leading yourself.
Imagine the outcome.



Abounding in Bounteousness

How often have you given something to someone and it changed their life?

Maybe it was of your time that you gave. Maybe it was a  kiss, an answer or even a loaf of bread.

Here is an experiment. Make a  list of all the times you received something this week. Then draw up another of all the times that you gave something away. Then place those lists opposite each other and see which one is longest. I’ll bet that in most cases, the one where we are on the receiving end is longer.

Most of the time we tend to enjoy receiving more than giving. Yet, if we could only fathom. If we could only know the meaning we bring to the lives  of other  and the purpose generosity brings to your own.

Giving is noble. 

When we become generous in our time, our deeds and our gifts, we add value. Instead of becoming consumers we can become accumulators. Accumulators of meaning and purpose.

Generosity unlocks ability. It opens up opportunity. It confirms goodwill, establishes sincerity and changes lives.

When was the last time you changed someone’s life by being generous?

Just a thought…

Bandera de Mexico

Mexican Flag Meaning:
The stripes on Mexico’s flag are believed to represent the following: the green stripe represents hope; the white represents symbolizes religion; and the red represents independence and the unity of the nation. Mexico’s coat of arms depicts an ancient Aztec legend that tells a tale of God telling a band of wandering Aztec Indians that when they came across an eagle eating a snake while perched on a nopal cactus growing out of a rock surrounded by water, they were to create their home. This spot eventually became Mexico City. This scenario with the eagle eating a snake is depicted on the Mexican coat of arms. – http://www.worldflags101.com


How interesting is this depiction?

A bunch of wandering people were instructed to be on the lookout for a very specific scenario. [I mean, Mexico probably has a lot of eagles and I know that they have a whole lot of cactuses.]

Yet, to find an eagle whilst it is eating a snake on a certain cactus growing from a rock that is surrounded by water……mmmh that sound very near impossible to me.

Still, if legend is true, they came across such an event and made that place their home.

FACT #1: Mexico City is built on the ruins of an old Aztec city.  Tenochtitlán.

FACT#2: Mexico City is built on a lake and the result is that the city is sinking at a rate of 6-8 inches a year, whilst water is continuously being pumped from the city.

These facts actually indicate that the legend might even be true…

Even though, we can probably come to the conclusion that a home can be made under any and very unlikely circumstances. I use the word “made” because that is how I believe a home is formed.

A house is built, but a home is either made or found.

Our homes are what we make of it. We decide what the qualities are that embodies our place of being, our place of safety – our homes.

What are the qualities or the values that you uphold, which acts as the hands that shape the undefined mould of togetherness into a ‘home sweet home’?




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